A few words to the wise

So maybe you can be wise(r).  I’ve learned that the sooner I learn from my mistakes, the less it repeats.  And, like an episode of Full House, I try my hardest to find the moral of the story.  It amazes me how many child like mistakes an adult can still make, or knowing that the cause of stress is still the same thing and why it still lingers when I’m not letting it go.

My husband is teaching me more and more about how to be patient, kind, loving, yet also keeping me accountable for what I say.  He makes me stronger, he helps refine me in such a loving manner.  I couldn’t have married a better man.

I’m still learning every day, but this is what I’ve learned so far:

  • Don’t do things for people with the expectation they have to reciprocate.  Do things because you genuinely want to.  Expectations will only burn yourself and in the real world, that debt can almost never be repaid.
  • If having to choose family or friends, always choose family. You’ll never regret it.
  • Most of the time when you’re upset at someone, you might really just be upset over how you feel or how it has affected you.  Selfish feelings, really.
  • Try not to preach one thing then do another.
  • In order to let go of things, you need them/it to disappear from your life completely.  It can be hard, but it’s the only way to get on the road to recovery.
  • Old friends are treasures and absolutely priceless.  Not many make it that far through life, but the good ones often do.  But continually make new friends since you are growing as an individual.  You don’t want to stay friends with someone just because of longevity when they’re still stuck at the same age you met them.
  • You can never say thank you too much.
  • A handwritten letter is becoming extinct, don’t let it.
  • If you are newly married or become a mother, your life should change.  Don’t feel guilty about it, if your life doesn’t, you are either being an inattentive wife or mother.
  • And for those looking on the outside in, it’s easier to say you won’t be certain things, but until you’re in that boat, it might be best to not say anything at all.
  • Before getting mad at someone for how they didn’t serve you, why don’t you ask how their day went? Maybe they are going through things you don’t even know about.  Make it more about them and less about you.
  • Be a person of class and don’t curse, no matter how mad or upset or stressed you are.
  • It’s OK to say goodbye.  And it is possible to wholeheartedly not have any ill feelings once said.
  • Constantly write your goals, and acknowledge when you achieve them.  Then add on more.
  • If you’re single, especially as a woman, don’t be in debt.  Or if you are in it, get out before you are married.  Once you are married hundreds of thousands will pass through the wife, her hands is where the family money passes though on how daily money is spent.  Start showing your future husband you are responsible now.
  • You can never ever spend too much time with family.  Ever.
  • It is OK to say nothing at all, just to keep the peace.
  • Leaving a party early graciously is very much acceptable.
  • It is OK to constantly refine your inner circle as morals and life changes and, as time allows.
  • Go on road trips or vacations with your girlfriends instead of boyfriends (until they become your husband).  You’ll never regret those photos with your girlfriends, but you will if that relationship doesn’t pan out.
  • Learn how to say no politely to keep your sanity.  Say it often.
  • Actually apologizing first means you’re the winner.

Diana Elizabeth just thought of her lovely long time friend Rachel while writing this.  Love her and miss her dearly, it’s time for another vacation together she thinks.

Diana Elizabeth is an author, photographer, and obsessive antique shopper. You can typically find her in her garden wrist deep in dirt, at a local estate sale or planning her next epic party.

5 Comments

  • Elizabeth Diane

    I loved this post. More than I usually love your posts. & that’s a lot ;) 3, 10, 12, 19, 22 were my favorites. I seriously laughed out loud at the last one! Thank you for posting such an insightful, wise post for all us to gain from! :)

  • Victoria

    Great list! Thanks for sharing. :)

  • Mailinh Nguyen

    Love this list! If I could, I would totally pin this on pinterest! For now, it’s in my favorite list/folder on Safari. Thank you for sharing this words. xx, Mailinh

  • sheila

    Thank you for these nuggets of wisdom. :). I’ve learned that it is most definitely ok to say both goodbye and no – sanity is worth so much more than negativity!

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