We never fight

I joke that this is our new couple’s logo.  Coming to stationery near you.

“You can lose an awful lot by “winning” a marital argument. Seek to understand, not win.” – Gary Thomas
Shared to me by my friend Krystal, visit her blog, it’s amazing.

My husband and I have never fought.  Well duh, you’re probably thinking, you’ve only been together for a year and married for six months.  Well, think about this – every relationship I’ve ever been in, a fight surfaces within the first three months (and I’ll also tell you that men can often be way more dramatic or bullheaded than women).  Mr. Wonderful and I might have different opinions (like the time he wanted to get married in Vegas to elope, or wanting to rip out all the grass in the yard and replace it with desert landscaping), but I would at most call them disagreements, we never fought over anything.

Our voices have never been raised.  I’ve never cried from what he’s said.  He doesn’t crush my spirit.  We’ve never called each other names.  I’ve never run out of the house because I couldn’t stand him.

I never really understood that type of relationship – the kind where you truly are kind and respectful to one another because well, I’ve never really respected a man before I met my husband.  To be completely honest, none deserved to be respected with the way they spoke or treated me.  And when you find yourself constantly defending yourself, and you aren’t being nurtured and treated in a kind and loving way, it’s difficult to give that back in that type of an environment.

Last week I had asked Mr. Wonderful for feedback on something, I don’t even recall what it was.

“I don’t know babe, everything you do I think is great,” he said.
“If you’re looking for some criticism I won’t give it to you.  My role is to encourage you and give you praise.  You might want to ask someone else.”

I’m not saying that the perfect relationship doesn’t have its struggles.  But, I’m certain that the right one shouldn’t have so many, especially early on or continually.  When we were engaged I had asked Mr. Wonderful what he thought our first fight would be over.

“Sweetie, I don’t ever want to fight with you,” he answered.

And, I never want to fight with him.  Case closed.

Diana Elizabeth begins her Marketing Momentum: Kickstart Your Photography Busuiness online class tomorrow (Wed)!  It’s for those who want to go full-time or market and start charging for their photography business.  It’ll be great because Mr. Wonderful actually decided to move out of the shared office and into the guest room.  Perhaps to avoid fights.