Harsh words can feel like a punch to the stomach especially by those closest to us who don’t understand what it’s like to be passionate about anything.
“Why do you have to live in a freaking Pottery Barn catalog?”
“This is not real life – real life there would be a broken plastic chair tipped on it’s side,” said my date as he critiqued a friend’s beautiful house party.
The guys I dated were rude, asking why I made invitations for parties, why I liked to decorate, and as my best friend from college nicely said, I had a DB radar – until I met Benjamin of course. My best girlfriends encouraged me, pointing out my strengths and it made sense that I should look for a lifetime partner who would do the same.
Earlier this week on MLK day, the Mr. also had the day off and went with me to the fabric warehouse to carry a roll of heavy curtain blackout liner. A few days earlier, he also attended to my informal modeling for Kokoon, the third year in a row. I’m sure he would’ve rather watched any sport on TV but he’s always been there – and look at the smile on my face being with girlfriends in the industry.
I also signed up for a weekly acting class and my heart is so full when I’m learning how to improve my acting skills. I’ve been in the industry for over 15 years and would you believe that I almost quit for a guy? What the —-?
I can only say that I was young, desperate to be accepted and loved, and easily manipulated. It doesn’t matter what age you are, I think sometimes we forget that the things that make us excited, that get us curious are the things that we should continue to pursue – just from an exploring and growing standpoint. It’s good for us to pick up new hobbies.
I have this saying on a magnet –
Can I get an amen? I whole heartedly believe in this. Many of us didn’t know we wanted to be a photographer, a seamstress, an artist, a blogger until we just started creating content, images, or products. As artists, we simply create things (anything – we don’t know what it is until we’re done!) and the process itself creates us as human beings.
We find out natural talents we didn’t know we had. One interest leads us to another, we realize how much time and dedication a craft can take and if we want it to be our creative personal escape or something that ends up being a career.
If you’re a creative this is the advice I have –
Stay away from negative people. Ditch the wet blankets. You don’t need someone who understands your passions or hobbies, just someone who supports that you have passions and hobbies – and that they will change throughout your life.
Your passions, heart – your life will flourish when you are surrounded by a healthy support group. When your spouse reads your blog posts and takes your photos like the Instagram Husband he is. This blog is a blend of all my creative passions and who I am thanks to my best girlfriends and a supportive husband. Who knows what you could end up being.
I believe in you!