Adjusting to the Mrs. title

So it’s Facebook official.  What does that mean?  That’s such a lame expression, I don’t get it.  But, I changed my last name on Facebook and so now I’m onto the legal part of it – thanks to, for $39 they filled out all the forms and had envelopes stamp ready and everything for me to make the change.  Here we go!  New identity!  Does this mean my driving record will start over? Cause that would seriously be nice.

Thank you to my friends who have been courteous to give us time and space since we’ve been married.  Like Mike said, “We won’t call you, we’ll wait to hear from you guys.”  If you have a friend who gets married, it’s very nice to give them space – if you must, send a text to say hello, or even an email, but don’t expect a response until things die down. I have spoken to a few friends but it’s only them returning my call and I really have appreciated this once in a lifetime of newness to get to know my Mr. Wonderful.

Our honeymoon will be in the new year since he has a few medical cases this week to handle and I’m totally fine with it.  He looks so cute in scrubs, it’s amazing how he even manages to make it out the door in time when I’m busy pinching his cheeks and hanging off his neck every morning.

My mom emailed me and asked if I’ve cooked a meal for my husband yet.  Well, sheesh.  I went grocery shopping recently and so far, I’ve made a nice sandwich for him for lunch.  He hasn’t had any stomach problems from that meal or died yet, so maybe I’ll move onto dinner.

So what changes once you’re married? This is what I’ve found so far, and I can only imagine this is due to truly marrying the perfect person.

  • Suddenly grocery shopping is more fun.
  • Running lame errands like sending out mail is fun with your best friend.
  • You get use to saying, “ours” and “us” and no longer say, “mine” or “me.”
  • Like kindergarten, you learn how to share.
  • Saying “my husband” is really fun. And hearing him say “wife” is even more fun.
  • Poor Benjamin has glitter on his face more often than not, now. Where could it come from I ask?  We look around – well maybe my J.Crew belt, J.Crew glitter cell phone case, my makeup, or my lip gloss…oops.
  • I want to do laundry, the dishes, clean the place, anything and everything to make his life easier without him even asking or implying.  In fact, he wants me to do nothing and I want to do everything!
  • It’s like a slumber party every night – for life.  Lucky me.
  • Since we’ve been very Christian traditional in our relationship, which I’m aware is very untraditional for society’s current lifestyle, being married is definitely like a total change, which I think makes everything that much more exciting.  Everything is new!
  • Most craziest thing: I want to spend less money and I’m bargain shopping. For reals.  I’d rather have him (1) Not stress about supporting us even though he does a wonderful job (2) I want him to retire early so we can have more time together.  Who knew? *wink*
  • You get to see your best friend, every day!
  • Clearly, it’s just more fun.

“Just because there’s space sweetie, doesn’t mean you have to fill it,” he said to me the other night as I came home with all these girly baskets, fun things to make sure he’s very aware that he now lives with a girl.  He makes me laugh.  He lets me be me.  He also promised in his vows that he would.  And he’s making me into the best me I’ve ever known.

Diana Elizabeth hasn’t gone Christmas shopping yet.  Uh-oh.

Diana Elizabeth is an author, photographer, and obsessive antique shopper. You can typically find her in her garden wrist deep in dirt, at a local estate sale or planning her next epic party.


  • Cynthia

    This is so beautiful-exciting-precious! Awh. :)

  • Krystal

    You crack me up, Diana S!
    Time & space as a married couple is SO NICE! A delayed honeymoon is wonderful…that’s what we did. It gave me a chance to get moved and settled in with Brad, go through and organize our wedding gifts, make returns, send out thank yous. By the time our vacation to Maui came, we had nothing on our minds back at home to distract us from just having fun together! I love the idea!

    I laughed out loud about the cooking part!!! And of course I love the hanging off his neck part. Do you think our guys will ever get tired of their human necklaces?! They better not! Haha!

    Your list of what changes is spot on! Everything is much more fun with your best friend with you…errands, groceries, sharing, housecleaning now has a purpose lol! The slumber party thing is so true, too :) Especially being a Christ-follower.


  • Jackie

    LOVE LOVE LOVE this Di! No one is more deserving of happiness than you. Smiled while reading it all. Like I’ve said a thousand times, your relationship with Benjamin is inspirational. And yes, you clearly married the right person because those are some massive changes that you’ve made in your life … I mean, cooking? You? Yeah, you are definitely in love ;)

  • Mailinh Nguyen

    Diana, I’m so happy that you’ve found your ever after happiness! And I’m happy that he loves you for you and you be you!!!!! Congratulations, Mrs.! Hopefully, I can find that ever after happiness like you! :))) xx

  • Kadie Pangburn

    I LOVE this post. Brings back so many memories of when Joey and I got married, we were super traditional as well, and moving in together was so fun… So I can relate to most of your post! For a while it felt like playing house lol… I remember grocery shopping at first was funny because we didn’t know what the other person did or didn’t like 100% yet and for months we kept buying oreo cookies… only to find out neither of us really liked them we both just though the other person did. I remember the best part was every morning waking up and getting to see his face laying next to mine… although most days he had been wide awake for hours doing chore and running errands waiting for me to wake up (that’s what you get when an early bird and a night owl wed). When I opened my eyes he would start jumping up and down on the bed so excited to have his best friend awake so he could spend the day with her…. Sigh…. marriage is fun :) Congrats, I am so happy for you!!!!

  • angel swanson

    i love this, i love you!!! congratulations a million times, MRS. s!!! xoxo


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